11.13.14

Choosing The Right S Word In Your Relationship

Posted in Encouragement, Encouraging Christian Resources, Encouraging Sermons at 8:49 pm by Administrator

There are two major “S” words that color and characterize every relationship. One “S” word is “selfishness” and the other one is “sacrifice.”

Whenever a person permits their selfishness and self-centeredness to predominate in their relationship, they doom their relationship to tension, disaster and failure.

Ben Stein’s How To Ruin Your Love Life is a witty and helpful book about the little things that can destroy a relationship and marriage.

Here are some selfish attitudes mentioned in How To Ruin Your Love Life:

  • “Know your wishes are the only ones that matter in any situation.”
  • “Live your life as if only your feelings count!”
  • “Never admit you’re wrong or apologize in any dispute.”
  • “Never be grateful for the gifts you get from your lover.”
  • “Talk about yourself exclusively.”
  • “Don’t for a moment let your lover believe that they’re valued just for themselves.”
  • Let it be known that you consider affection to be a chore.”


Never allow the brazen selfishness of this world to prevent you from sacrificing for your mate.

Whenever a person permits sacrifice to predominate in their relationship — obviously a relationship with the right saved person, they bless their relationship by causing it to benefit from the following glorious principles:

  • Sacrifice eliminates tension in a relationship because it puts in check a person’s ego which always wants to have things its way.
  • Sacrifice sweetens the atmosphere of a relationship because it touchingly displays love-in-action to one’s mate.
  • Sacrifice strengthens a relationship because it sets in motion the principle that says that in blessing your mate with concern and sensitivity, you cannot help but to reap blessings yourself.
  • Sacrifice elevates, deepens and dignifies a relationshop in that it causes a person to value the notion that giving is far more important than receiving!

What Do We Really Mean By This Word “Sacrifice“?

The word “sacrifice” comes from the Latin word “sacrificium.” “Sacer” means “sacred” or “holy” and “facere” means “to make” or “to do.” Therefore, sacrifice means that you consider your relationship so sacred and important until you are willing to make the needed adjustments for its continued success and survival.

The act of sacrifice is sacred in a relationship because it seriously reflects what God did for us in Jesus Christ.

  • “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life (John 3:16).
  • Note that the above verse clearly mentions the giving component that is involved in all genuine sacrifice (“He gave His only begotten Son”).
  • To sacrifice is to give!

    Give your undivided attention to the one you love.
    Give compliments to the one you love.
    Give affection to the one you love.
    Give gifts to the one you love.
    Give your precious time to the one you love.
    Give your forgiveness to the one you love.
    Give priority to the one you love.


Once is not enough! If a word, gesture or activity pleases your mate, then it is worth doing over and over and over again.

Husbands and men in a serious relationship, never underestimate the power of a flower!

“Every husband and wife needs to sit down and meditate on the thought: ‘My partner married me because she or he thought the pleasing things I was doing during our courtship would continue for the rest of our lives. Am I holding up my end of the bargain?’ ” Willard Harley, Jr in His Needs, Her Needs

Agape love, the highest form of love, always has another’s best interest at heart.

“Agape love is defined and driven by self-sacrifice. The measure of love is what you are willing to give up for it.” (Our Daily Bread: “What Love Is)

Please know that sacrifice requires a profound pronoun shift! That is to say, sacrifice occurs when you give up the “I” and the “me” in your relationship, and focus on the “we” and “us” in your relationship.

“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it.” Ephesians 5:25

It should plainly understood that while a relationship may barely survive when one member sacrifices, a relationship will truly soar when both members sacrifice.

Ask yourself this question:

Which of these ‘S’ words characterizes your relationship? The ‘S’ word that stands for “selfishness” or the ‘S’ word that stands for “sacrifice“??

Be Encouraged,

Evangelist Manuel Scott, Jr.

(Adapted from an excerpt from Evangelist Scott’s lecture, “The Importance Of Keeping It Fresh”)

Related Blog Posts

Dating Advice For Christian Singles

A Word For Couples

Related Christian Resources By Evangelist Scott

The Importance Of Keeping It Fresh lecture

Sister, Does Your Man Pass The Test? lecture

All Things Work Together lecture

Related Sermons By Evangelist Scott

“Things That Will Wreck Your Home”

“Decisions That Won’t Hold Water”

“Be Careful Of What You Put In Your System”

Additional Christian Resources:

His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley is an outstanding treatment of how the needs of men and women are significantly different.

Love Is A Decision by Gary Smalley is a Christian classic that should be read by all married couples, and those persons intending to marry.

How To Ruin Your Love Life by Ben Stein

Our Daily Bread: What Love Is



03.20.14

Dating Advice For Christian Singles

Posted in Encouragement, Encouraging Bible Verses, Encouraging Christian Resources, Encouraging Quotations, Encouraging Sermons at 12:13 am by Administrator

In the words of my pastor, Dr. Ephraim Williams, you must learn how to “date with your ears and not with your eyes.” That is to say, you must not be seduced by a brother’s physical appearance.

Never allow a person’s looks to overshadow what a person has to say. Instead, you must pay special attention what he says about himself, people in general, his family, his past relationships, his beliefs, and most certainly, what he says about God and the church.

Many Singles, even Christian Singles, date with their “eyes” instead of dating with their “ears,” because a) it requires less work, and b) their sex drive is so intense and hypnotizing.

If you do not control your sex drive:

  • Your sex drive will drive you crazy.
  • Your sex drive will drive you to depression and despair.
  • Your sex drive will drive you to contracting all sorts of infections and diseases.
  • Your sex drive will drive you to a horribly low self-esteem.
  • Your sex drive will drive you into the arms of a leeching, kryptonite brother who will expect you to take care of him!

Christian Singles, you must realize that the sex drive is so powerful until the only thing that can control it is the Holy Spirit!

You can help the Holy Spirit by 1) getting your mind off lust; 2) staying away from “kryptonite” people (that is, people who make you weak): and 3) avoiding compromising situations. (Philippians 4:8; Isaiah 26:3; II Corinthians 6:14; I Corinthians 6:18-20)

My late father, Dr. Manuel Scott, Sr. used to say, “If Adam had had the right Eve in the garden, we would still be in paradise.” (The Quotable Manuel Scott, Sr: Words From A Gospel Genius, 2010)

Someone may appear to be “eye candy,” but just like diabetes, they can do great harm to your system. The disadvantage of dating with your “eyes” is that you usually end up with a “pretty devil” and a broken heart!

I Samuel 16:7: “But the Lord said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance or on the height of his stature, because I have refused him; for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.”

The main advantage of dating with your “ears” is that you give yourself time to get to know a person before making an emotional commitment to them.

In the end, one way or another, a person’s speech and conversation will eventually reveal to you who they really are and what they are all about.

(Adapted excerpt from Evangelist Scott’s new lecture entitled Sister, Does Your Man Pass The Test?”)

Be Encouraged,

Evangelist Manuel Scott, Jr.




Related Blog Posts:

Encouraging Poem For Single Mothers


Related Christian Resources by Evangelist Scott:

“Sister, Does Your Man Pass The Test?” Lecture

“How To Be Single And Wise” Lecture

The Importance Of Keeping It Fresh” Lecture

“How To Choose A Christian Mate” (Singles Conference Recording on CD)

Evangelist Scott’s brand new lecture entitled Sister, Does Your Man Pass The Test? is for:

  • Sisters who are tired of having one relationship after another after another after another.
  • Sisters who are tired of being single.
  • Sisters who are tired of not feeling secure, protected and cherished by a strong, sensitive, saved man!
  • Sisters who still believe in the sanctity, sweetness and romance of a marriage “made in heaven.” (Matthew 19:5-6)



Related Sermons by Evangelist Scott:

“But Is The Price Too High?”
“Be Careful What You Put In Your System”
“Before You Stumble Again”



Additional Christian Resources:

Our Daily Bread: The Pursuit

His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley, 2011.

05.31.13

We Are Not Immune

Posted in Encouragement, Encouraging Christian Resources, Encouraging Poems, Encouraging Sermons at 7:05 pm by Administrator

We Are Not Immune

by

Evangelist Manuel Scott, Jr.

There is a lie
That needs to die
That says God’s children are immune
From tragedy, heartbreak and despair
Disaster and misfortune.

There is a lie
That needs to die
That says that believers are above Devastation
But just ask Job, ask Jeremiah, ask David, ask me
Wait!
Ask Jesus who said, “In the world ye shall have Tribulation
Oh no, we Christians are not immune
From life’s dangerous and sometimes cruel sea
But we are on a ship whose captain is the Lord
And He can handle
Any emergency.



Psalm 34:17 “Many are the afflictions of the righteous; but the Lord delivereth him out of them all.”


Be Encouraged,

Evangelist Manuel Scott, Jr.




Related Christian Resources by Evangelist Scott:

If You Are Going Through Hard Times
The Truth About Your Healing


Related Sermons by Evangelist Scott:

“A Setback Is A Setup For A Comeback”

“Hallelujah Anyhow”

“You Can Make It If You Can Take It”


Additional Christian Resources:

Our Daily Bread:Cape Tribulation

Where Is God When It Hurts? by Philip Yancey

When Life Falls Apart by Warren Wiersbe


11.21.12

Give Thanks To God

Posted in Encouragement, Encouraging Bible Verses, Encouraging Christian Resources at 10:34 pm by Administrator

“In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ concerning you.” (I Thessalonians 5:18)

Here the Apostle Paul is telling us that it is God’s will to thank Him in every situation. In order to always give thanks to God, it is important for us to “pray without ceasing” (I Thessalonians 5:17).

If you are praying constantly, you will discover that your prayer life itself will give you all kinds of reasons to be thankful to God no matter what.

You will also find yourself continually giving thanks to God when you come to know that everything that happens to you will work out for your good.

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28)

I know too much about the grace and mercy of God to ever doubt that He can bring me through anything.

Has the Lord ever brought you through anything?

Well, the same God that brought you through on yesterday is the same God that can and will bring you through today.

If you are armed with knowing that, regardless of your circumstances, everything that happens to you will work out for your good, then you as a believer have a rock-solid motive to give God thanks for everything.

“O give thanks unto the Lord: call upon His name: make known His deeds among the people.” Psalm 105:1

Thank the Lord for loading you up with benefits (Psalm 68:19; Psalm 103:2).

Thank God for saving you (Ephesians 2:8).

Thank Jesus for dying for your sins (John 10:11).

Thank God for changing you (II Corinthians 5:17)

Thank God for giving you joy (John 15:11)

Thank the Lord for providing for you (Philippians 4:19)

Thank God for guiding you, even when you didn’t know it (Psalm 37:23)

Thank God for protecting you from all hurt, harm or danger.

Thank God for making a way out of no way (Psalm 124).

Thank the Lord for His many, many blessings. God wonderfully blesses you every day.

I’ve been saying for some time that our God is a blessing specialist. He knows how to bless, He knows who to bless and, oh yes, He knows when to bless.

There is always reason to rejoice and thank God for His goodness. “O give thanks to the Lord, for He is good” (Psalm 107:1-2).

In everything, give thanks (Philippians 4:6-7).

In fact, every now and then, you ought to have what a friend of mine calls “a ‘thank you’ fit.”

Thank you, Lord!

Thank you, Lord!!

Thank you, Lord!!!

Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.” Ephesians 5:20

Happy Thanksgiving!

Be Encouraged,

Evangelist Manuel Scott, Jr.

(Adapted from Evangelist Scott’s I’m Too Blessed To Be Stressed lecture)

Related Blog Posts:

Related Sermons by Evangelist Scott:

  • “Count Your Many Blessings”
  • “Always, Always”
  • “Hallelujah Anyhow”
  • “He Will Supply”

Additional Christian Resources:

Our Daily Bread: “The Joy Of A Generous God, November 22, 2012

Our Daily Bread: “Unexpressed Gratitude“, November 22, 2011

Bible Study Planet: What The Bible Says About Being Thankful

Bible Study Planet: Thanks Living

Bible Study Planet: Let Us Give Thanks

Zig Ziglar’s Life Lifters: Moments Of Inspiration For Living Life Better by Zig Ziglar, 2003.

11.03.12

A Word About Political Correctness

Posted in Encouraging Bible Verses, Encouraging Christian Resources, Encouraging Quotations at 10:21 pm by Administrator

In these godless, immoral and spiritually confusing times, it is exceedingly important that we Christians realize that we have NOT been called to be “politically correct.” Instead, we have been called to be biblically correct, morally correct and spiritually correct.

“Then Peter and the other disciples answered and said, ‘We ought to obey God rather than men’.”
Acts 5:29

Christians have no business whatsoever getting direction and validation from a popular culture that is anti-God and anti-Bible, no matter how glamorous or sensational it may be. In other words, we who are blood-bought, blood-washed and Holy Ghost-filled believers should NEVER get our moral and spiritual guidance from Oprah, Dr. Phil, Tyra Banks, Steve Harvey, Tyler Perry, Judge Judy, Modern Family, The View, Lady Gaga or Jerry Springer, to name a few.

“Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly.”
Psalm 1:1

We would do well to listen to the words of the great Scottish homiletician, Dr. P. T. Forsyth, who said, “If we do not have within us that which is above us, we will soon yield to that which is around us.”

My dear friend, C. E. McLain, has astutely said, “It is one thing to be tolerant and open-minded, but it is another thing to try to re-write Scripture.”

Be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect will of God.” Romans 12:2

In this loose and “anything goes” society, God’s Word instructs you and corrects you (II Timothy 3:16). God has the final Word. Don’t get to the point where God can’t tell you anything!

Stand on the principles, values and standards that are in line with God’s Word and God’s Will.

“For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?” Mark 8:36

Be encouraged,

Evangelist Manuel Scott, Jr.

(Adapted from Evangelist Scott’s lecture, What’s Up? A Biblical Statement On Earrings, Tattoos, Living On The Down Low, and Gangsta Rap Music)

Related Blog Posts:

Related Sermons by Evangelist Scott:

  • But Is The Price Too High?
  • Before You Stumble Again
  • A Fig Leaf Situation
  • The Importance Of Living Vertically
  • Things That Will Wreck Your Home

Additional Christian Resources:

I Never Thought I’d See The Day:Culture At The Crossroads by David Jeremiah (Faith Works, 2011)


Making Gay Okay

by Robert R. Reilly (Ignatius Press, 2014)

God Speaks To Graduates
by Evangelist Scott

Christian Believers And The L.O.R.D. Question
by Evangelist Scott

It’s H.I.P. To Be Holy
by Evangelist Scott

When Sunday Is Not Enough by Evangelist Scott

A Christian Perspective On AIDS And Homosexuality
by Evangelist Scott

Decision Card (Five Questions Every Young Person Should Ask Before Making A Major Decision) by Evangelist Scott

Our Daily Bread: “No More, No Less, October 16, 2012

Our Daily Bread: “The Best Teacher, June 13, 2012

Our Daily Bread: “Stand Fast”, October 30, 2012

10.27.12

May I Have An Abortion Please?

Posted in Encouraging Christian Resources, Encouraging Poems at 10:38 pm by Administrator

by Evangelist Manuel Scott Jr.

May I have an abortion please
I have a date tonight at Nine
Make it quick, make it snappy
Let’s not fool around
I must be right on time.

May I have an abortion please
My nail must be done by Eight
Come Doctor, or whoever you are
I mustn’t be late.

May I have an abortion please
My dress is due at Six
It’s vitally important I’m home by then
In case something needs to be fixed.

May I have an abortion please
I must get to the bank by Five
Now Doctor, or whoever you say you are
I know money isn’t everything
For I’d give a million dollars
Just to be alive.

“Thou shalt not kill.” Exodus 20:13

Be Encouraged,

Evangelist Manuel Scott, Jr.

(Poem from Evangelist Scott’s Turning On The Power poem booklet)

Related Sermons by Evangelist Scott:

  • But Is The Price Too High?
  • Be Careful What You Put In Your System
  • Before You Stumble Again

Additional Christian Resources:

Christian Singles And The Need To Make A Lane Change by Evangelist Scott

Christian Believers And The Lord Question by Evangelist Scott

What Does God Say About It?, 2nd edition by J. G. McCann, Sr. (Tselane Publishing, 2008)

09.25.12

The Sky Is Still There

Posted in Encouragement, Encouraging Bible Verses, Encouraging Christian Resources, Encouraging Sermons at 1:53 am by Administrator

In The Soul Of Christianity, Huston Smith discusses how even when the sky is covered with dark rain clouds, and assaulted by angry tornados, the sky, nevertheless, is still there.

No amount of harsh climatic activity, and regardless of how gloomy the atmosphere may appear, can change the fact that the sky is still there.

It is crucial that you realize that in spite of the rough storms that you are currently going through, in spite of the terrible tornadoes that are circling your life, God in Jesus, just like the sky, is still there! God–who made the sky–is still there!

“Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me.” Psalm 23:4

Friends will betray you, family members will attack you, lovers will desert you, coworkers will turn their backs on you, but God, just like the sky, is still there! God has always been there, and He will always be there!

“I will never leave thee nor forsake thee.” (Hebrews 13:5)

I’ve been saying for some time that God is still there, even when you can’t feel Him.

“The Lord is near to all who call upon Him.” Psalm 145:18

Never forget that while appearances may have A word, it is God who has the last word. (Genesis 50:20) While appearances can write a comma, it is God who places the period.

“Circumstances do not have the last word in anyone’s destiny.” Dr. Manuel Scott Sr. in The Quotable Manuel Scott Sr: Words From A Gospel Genius by Manuel Scott, Jr.

“When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee.” Isaiah 43:2

Sorrow may be clouding up your sky, but be encouraged, God is still there.

Worry may be clouding up your sky, but be encouraged, God is still there.

Anxiety may be clouding up your sky, but be encouraged, God is still there.

Depression may be clouding up your sky, but be encouraged, God is still there.

“Lo, I am with you always, even unto the end of the world.” (Matthew 28:20)

(Adapted from Christian Singles And The Need To Make A Lane Change lecture by Evangelist Manuel Scott Jr.)

Be Encouraged,

Evangelist Manuel Scott, Jr.

Related Blog Posts by Evangelist Scott:



Related Sermons by Evangelist Scott:

“Always, Always”
“Hallelujah Anyhow”
“It’s Not Over Until God Has Spoken”

Related Christian Resources by Evangelist Scott:

  • If You’re Going Through Hard Times lecture



Additional Christian Resources:



08.15.12

No Need To Worry

Posted in Encouragement, Encouraging Bible Verses, Encouraging Christian Resources, Encouraging Quotations, Encouraging Sermons at 7:20 pm by Administrator

The astute C. S. Lewis once said, “But tho’ there is much to be puzzled about, there is nothing to be worried about.”

This statement assures us that peace of mind, for the believer, has little to do with our understanding of events, but everything to do with our faith in Him who navigates and controls all events.

In other words, even when we are tossed to and fro by the storms of bewilderment, questions and worries, we can be at perfect peace, because the captain and lifeguard of the ship is Christ Jesus Himself, the Prince of Peace.

“Be still and know that I am God.” Psalm 46:10

I’ve been saying for some time, while you’re trying to figure it out, God is already working it out.

Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways, acknowledge Him and He shall direct thy paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6

If you make a habit of just focusing down on earthly issues, you will be depressed and confused every time. But, if you focus up on eternal issues — eternal issues that put earthly issues in their proper perspective, you will operate in confidence, peace and power.

“Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.” Isaiah 26:3

The essence of your peace comes from how consistent you are in looking up “from whence cometh your help, your help cometh from the Lord.” Psalm 121:1-2

“For we walk by faith, not by sight.” II Corinthians 5:7

“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them that are the called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28

(Excerpt from Say It Well: Preaching And Teaching Ideas For Serious Preachers And Teachers lecture by Evangelist Manuel Scott Jr)

Be Encouraged,

Evangelist Manuel Scott, Jr.

Related Blog Posts by Evangelist Scott:

Related Sermons by Evangelist Scott:

  • “Always, Always”
  • “Hallelujah Anyhow”

Related Christian Resources by Evangelist Scott:

  • I Am Too Blessed To Be Stressed lecture
  • Let’s Not Go There: 15 Spiritual Principles To Help Christians Cope lecture

Additonal Christian Resources:

07.18.12

Nelson Mandela

Posted in Encouraging Christian Resources, Encouraging Quotations at 4:44 pm by Administrator

On reflecting on Nelson Mandela’s 94th birthday today, I remembered a quote from my father in my book, The Quotable Manuel Scott Sr: Words From A Gospel Genius about Mandela:

In speaking of the near angelic graciousness and utterly remarkable absence of hatred and ill will that characterized Nelson Mandela upon his release from prison after twenty-seven years, my father remarked, “There are some things prison cannot jail.” Quote # 395

Happy Birthday, Nelson Mandela!

Frontline: “The Long Walk Of Nelson Mandela” documentary

Be Encouraged,

Evangelist Manuel Scott, Jr.

Related Posts:

07.06.12

Drawing The Line Somewhere

Posted in Encouragement, Encouraging Christian Resources, Encouraging Poems, Encouraging Sermons at 9:30 pm by Administrator

by Evangelist Manuel Scott, Jr.

We must all concede that the flesh is a snare
And this cross we must daily bear
But in spite of this fact the Word still teaches
That a line
Must be drawn
Somewhere.

Temptation is powerful, compelling and strong
The smell of Sin is sweet like perfumed air
The pull of lust is like a magnet
But Pilgrim
A line
Must be drawn
Somewhere.

It is folly to believe and an illusion to maintain
That your strength, against Satan’s, can compare
For the Devil, about you, is far too wise
Be sober!
A line
Must be drawn
Somewhere.

There are those who say that permissiveness is the way
That one should boldly take up Life’s dare
But upon examining their horrid mess
You would see
That a line
Must be drawn
Somewhere.

And so, Dear Ones, I am even more convinced
Regarding these things I’ve tried to share
That if Sanity is to live and Decency survive
There must be
There has to be
A line
Drawn
Somewhere.

“Let all things be done decently and in order.”
I Corinthians 14:40

Poem taken from Evangelist Scott’s Turning On The Power: Poetry Of Life And The Spirit booklet

“All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness.” II Timothy 3:16

Be Encouraged,

Evangelist Manuel Scott, Jr.

Related Sermons by Evangelist Scott:

  • “Before You Stumble Again”
  • “But Is The Price Too High?”
  • “Be Careful Of What You Put In Your System”
  • “A Fig Leaf Situation”

Related Christian Resources by Evangelist Scott:

  • What’s Up?: A Biblical Statement On Earrings, Tattoos, Living On The Down Low And Gangsta Rap Music lecture
  • Young People: The Choice Is Yours lecture
  • Let’s Not Go There lecture
  • Decision Card

Additional Christian Resources:

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