03.20.14

Dating Advice For Christian Singles

Posted in Encouragement, Encouraging Bible Verses, Encouraging Christian Resources, Encouraging Quotations, Encouraging Sermons at 12:13 am by Administrator

In the words of my pastor, Dr. Ephraim Williams, you must learn how to “date with your ears and not with your eyes.” That is to say, you must not be seduced by a brother’s physical appearance.

Never allow a person’s looks to overshadow what a person has to say. Instead, you must pay special attention what he says about himself, people in general, his family, his past relationships, his beliefs, and most certainly, what he says about God and the church.

Many Singles, even Christian Singles, date with their “eyes” instead of dating with their “ears,” because a) it requires less work, and b) their sex drive is so intense and hypnotizing.

If you do not control your sex drive:

  • Your sex drive will drive you crazy.
  • Your sex drive will drive you to depression and despair.
  • Your sex drive will drive you to contracting all sorts of infections and diseases.
  • Your sex drive will drive you to a horribly low self-esteem.
  • Your sex drive will drive you into the arms of a leeching, kryptonite brother who will expect you to take care of him!

Christian Singles, you must realize that the sex drive is so powerful until the only thing that can control it is the Holy Spirit!

You can help the Holy Spirit by 1) getting your mind off lust; 2) staying away from “kryptonite” people (that is, people who make you weak): and 3) avoiding compromising situations. (Philippians 4:8; Isaiah 26:3; II Corinthians 6:14; I Corinthians 6:18-20)

My late father, Dr. Manuel Scott, Sr. used to say, “If Adam had had the right Eve in the garden, we would still be in paradise.” (The Quotable Manuel Scott, Sr: Words From A Gospel Genius, 2010)

Someone may appear to be “eye candy,” but just like diabetes, they can do great harm to your system. The disadvantage of dating with your “eyes” is that you usually end up with a “pretty devil” and a broken heart!

I Samuel 16:7: “But the Lord said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance or on the height of his stature, because I have refused him; for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.”

The main advantage of dating with your “ears” is that you give yourself time to get to know a person before making an emotional commitment to them.

In the end, one way or another, a person’s speech and conversation will eventually reveal to you who they really are and what they are all about.

(Adapted excerpt from Evangelist Scott’s new lecture entitled Sister, Does Your Man Pass The Test?”)

Be Encouraged,

Evangelist Manuel Scott, Jr.




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Related Christian Resources by Evangelist Scott:

“Sister, Does Your Man Pass The Test?” Lecture

“How To Be Single And Wise” Lecture

The Importance Of Keeping It Fresh” Lecture

“How To Choose A Christian Mate” (Singles Conference Recording on CD)

Evangelist Scott’s brand new lecture entitled Sister, Does Your Man Pass The Test? is for:

  • Sisters who are tired of having one relationship after another after another after another.
  • Sisters who are tired of being single.
  • Sisters who are tired of not feeling secure, protected and cherished by a strong, sensitive, saved man!
  • Sisters who still believe in the sanctity, sweetness and romance of a marriage “made in heaven.” (Matthew 19:5-6)



Related Sermons by Evangelist Scott:

“But Is The Price Too High?”
“Be Careful What You Put In Your System”
“Before You Stumble Again”



Additional Christian Resources:

Our Daily Bread: The Pursuit

His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley, 2011.